praying

Why And How Do I Pray? | Pastor Caden Metcalf | Alpha

Most people have times when they wonder how to talk to God or think about whether He’s really listening. These questions can come up on tough days or in unexpected, quiet moments. The thought of prayer sometimes leaves us puzzled, thinking it must be something complicated or out of reach.

In a message from Pastor Caden Metcalf during the Alpha series, this question is unpacked in a simple, straightforward way. Prayer does not have to be hard. It can be as natural as speaking about what is on your mind, what you need, and what you are hoping for. No matter if prayer is new for you or something you have done for years, there is always room to grow. This guide will help you learn what true Christian prayer means, why it matters, and how you can make it a regular part of your life.

What Prayer Really Is

Prayer is less about getting the words right and more about being real. Think of it as a conversation with someone who knows you inside and out and is still eager to hear your voice. It is not about impressing anyone or meeting a standard. You do not need a perfect script. You do not need a quiet space with special lighting. You can pray when you are walking, driving, or even waiting in line.

What matters is your honesty. God is not after a polished performance. He is after your heart. Whether you speak out loud, write it down, or whisper your thoughts, God invites you to connect in your own way.

Because of Jesus, anyone can approach God feeling safe and welcome. Prayer is about relationship, where you listen as much as you speak. God is not distant. He invites us to have a real friendship with Him.

Why Prayer Matters in Everyday Life

Prayer works in the details of daily life, not just in emergencies or at church. When you build prayer into your everyday routine, it can shift your whole outlook.

  1. Prayer brings peace. Life can pile up with worries about family, work, and the future. When you stop for a moment to talk to God, sometimes the problem does not change right away, but your anxiety can start to melt away. You find calm even when things are still hard.
  2. Prayer grows gratitude. By taking time to thank God for what you already have, you start noticing blessings you may have missed before. Things that once looked overwhelming can feel smaller.
  3. Prayer helps you see things differently. Sometimes, you get a sense of clarity or just the right words from someone else after praying. These small moments are reminders that God cares about what you are going through.

Radiant Church encourages prayer as an everyday practice, not just something saved for Sundays. Their weekly worship gatherings often include open times of prayer, and prayer support is available for kids, teens, and adults who want to grow closer to God.

What If It Feels Like God Isn’t Answering?

There are times when you might pray and not sense any answer at all. Maybe you are waiting on healing, hoping for a new job, or wanting something to finally change. It can be tough to wait and wonder if God hears you.

The truth is, He always hears. But His answers are not always yes. Sometimes the answer is not yet or He has something else planned. Like a caring parent, God sometimes protects us from things that are not best for us, even if we do not understand why. That does not make waiting easy, but it does mean you are still seen and loved.

Learning to trust God when all you hear is silence can grow your faith. Imagine riding a train through a tunnel. You do not jump off when it gets dark. You keep going, trusting the person driving. Sometimes waiting seasons are where trust and closeness with God grow most.

A Simple Way to Start Praying

If you want to start but are not sure how, try this pattern: Thank You, Sorry, Please.

  • Thank You: Begin by finding something to be thankful for each day, like your family, house, or even just your breath.
  • Sorry: Talk to God about anything you wish you could change or moments you know were not your best. You do not have to keep carrying guilt. God offers real forgiveness, and you can be honest about your mistakes.
  • Please: Share what is on your mind and heart. Ask God for help with your needs, both big and small. Praying for others is good too.

You can use the Psalms or the Lord’s Prayer as starting points if you do not have your own words yet. Remember, God is not waiting for perfect prayers, just honest ones.

Keep Going Even When It’s Hard

Everyone gets distracted or discouraged sometimes. You might try to pray but end up thinking about dinner or that text you forgot to send. That does not mean you should stop.

Short prayers count just as much as long ones. There is no right length or formula. What matters is the act of reaching out to God. Speak like you would to someone you trust. Share what is going on and then pause for a moment. Sometimes the quiet is when you notice God with you the most.

Find a moment each day to stop and pray, even for just a few minutes. Over time, this habit can become the thing that helps you feel steady when life gets busy.

Radiant Church supports building this habit with groups, kids’ ministries, and midweek prayer times tailored to different life stages and schedules. Whether you are just starting out or want something new, you can find resources to grow without pressure.

Prayer Changes Everything—Starting With Us

When you make time to talk to God, even in small ways, changes start happening inside. You might notice you lose your temper less often or catch yourself being kinder, even in stressful moments. Your reactions can soften, and what once felt urgent may feel less stressful. Over time, the more you pray, the more natural it feels to listen for God’s quiet guidance.

The connection you build is not tied down to any place. You can pray outside during a walk, at the kitchen table, or during a worship night. It is about your attitude, not your location.

At Radiant Church, prayer is not seen as something for a chosen few; it is something for everyone. There are chances to gather and pray during Sunday services, community events, and throughout the week, so people can learn to pray together and support one another.

Prayer Is Worth It

Sometimes prayer feels natural, and other times it feels awkward or unanswered. Even then, it is worth making space for it. You do not need to have it all together or wait until you are in the right mood. The best way is just to keep showing up, day by day, with whatever words you have.

There is not one correct way or place to pray. All that matters is starting and sticking with it. Over time, prayer can shift from being something hard or unfamiliar to something that gives you strength and steadiness. Each honest moment in prayer is an invitation to grow, bit by bit, into someone more grounded, hopeful, and connected.

Prayer matters most because relationship matters most. That is true each week in a church worship service in Surprise AZ and every ordinary day in between.

We’d love to help you grow in your prayer life, meet others walking a similar path, and experience God’s presence in fresh ways. At Radiant Church, our heart is to create space for honest connection with God, right here in the desert. Whether prayer is new to you or it’s something you’ve leaned on for years, you’re welcome here. Join us for a worship gathering or a church worship service in Surprise AZ and see how making space for prayer can shape your everyday life. Have questions or want to connect? We’re here for you.